The service of shaia{R}

In the process of planning and writing this entry several thoughts and ideas went through shaia's head. Part of the reason that this entry was written is because about a month ago, Master and shaia had a HUGE disagreement and finally shaia has accepted that sometimes she needs to just learn to let the issue go and move on. This is how she goes about defusing the argument and making up after it. shaia hopes that many of you find this entry helpful, shaia and Master have found it has made a huge improvement to Oour relationship. Master is also not of the belief that He is ALWAYS right, but shaia admits that really, He does seem to be right most of the time, even if she doesn't want to admit it.

-What to do during and after an argument -

Written by: shaia{R}

Relationships are important in order for strong mental health. There have even been studies that show the positive health impacts regarding having a good relationship with others, not matter what the relationship may be. One of the strongest types of relationships is boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, and lovers. In these types of relationships, the other person matters greatly to you.

In any relationship, there are bound to be arguments and disagreements. There have been arguments and disagreements among people dating back decades into history. Back then there was not as much to argue about as there is today, but there still happened to be couples that would break up, just not as often. They would kiss and make up more times than not. However, in present day people seem to get divorced without even trying to reconcile their differences.

There are things you can remember when you have an argument and you want to make up:

1. Time out – Take a time out from the argument for 30 minutes and go off into your own corners and cool down. Everyone knows that emotions are extremely high in an argument. Just remember, when a child is highly emotional the best thing is to put them somewhere to cool off, well the same thing goes for partners. So when emotions are high, one of the two needs to call this time out to keep things from getting out of control.

2. Do you laugh about the small things? – An example is when your wife throws something out of the refrigerator that you planned on eating, you need to ask yourself if wish to keep neutral ground and not cause an argument. You need to be sure you stop and think about what you are going to say before getting upset. This will allow you and your partner a chance to have a happy and drama free home.

3. When is it right to kiss and make up? – This is something that has been discussed for years. There are some who believe that couples must make up before going to bed. There are others who would rather sleep on it before continuing. Both arguments are reasonable. Those who believe the first thought are people who want to wake up fresh and start over again. They will talk as long as it takes to get things straightened out and then fall asleep together.

The other couples that wish to sleep on the feelings over night are of the belief that sitting and talking all hours of the night will not accomplish anything. They know their head will be clearer in the morning. In all actuality, the argument may actually be diminished.

Whichever side you are on really depends on who you are and your personality. You may end up in a relationship where you feel one way and your partner feels another. If this occurs, you will need to work out a compromise.