Friday - Peace
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Pixie's Mommy
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. - Albert Einstein
Keeping Peace is a hard thing to come by these days. Sometimes it seems as if everything in life is conspiring against our having peace. The dog is barking, the trouble with work/career, you're stuck in traffic and you just had an argument with a dear friend. In the midst of all of this unrest, we wonder how peace is possible. The answer to this question depends in part on how you define peace.
One way to define peace is simply the absence of conflict. If you can resolve whatever conflict you are facing, then you can have peace. But when conflict rears its head, peace runs out the door, and it won't return until the conflict is settled. This notion of peace is a good start, but it is also fragile, because it is totally dependent on your circumstances.
A stronger definition of peace is one that allows you to rise above your circumstances and remain calm despite the storm raging around you. It is a sense of assurance that no matter what happens, things will eventually get better, and that somewhere, someone trustworthy is in control. This sort of peace is not dependent on circumstances. Rather, it allows you to see beyond your surroundings and fix your eyes on a point in the distance that allows you to hold steady on your course and ride out the storm. How can you find this sort of peace?
By putting your trust in the one person who transcends all of our trials and struggles: God. God is the only one who can truly offer us this gift. If we put our trust in Him, He will give us the strength and the endurance we need to weather any situation. God doesn't promise that life will be easy. In fact, if we truly follow Him, He says we will experience trials of many kinds.
But rather than let these problems lead us to despair, we can be assured that we are not alone, and that we are not struggling in vain. As the writer of the book of James in the Bible says, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance" (James 1:2-3). You can place your trust in God by asking Him ( and your guides and Angels) to help you deal with these circumstances.
Take a moment and tell God about it. Tell Him you trust in His ability to help you deal with the situation, and ask Him for the strength and wisdom you need to get through it - as well as for her. Then wait expectantly to see what God will do. Your circumstances may not change immediately, but your level of peace and contentment will.
I suppose we all have our ways, our methods, of keeping strangely sane in a world that seems to be changing with every minute. It's hard to keep your spirits up, and it seems so surreal sometimes, to think that we have to work hard at staying positive.
The key to staying positive is to rely on what's inside instead. But keeping positive inside for many can mean facing their past, and what is embedded in them. Most of which includes negativity. I think positivity for many does mean what is inside, and realizing that inspiration and good moods are much more than partaking in the aspects of life that make us happy.
Expect temporary setbacks and failures on the road to accomplishment. By doing this, you won't crash and burn mentally or emotionally at the first sign of a real challenge. Because life is not fair, and is far from perfect. We have to coast along, we have no option there. But we can choose how we feel, and somewhat train ourselves to be positive amidst the most grim situations and circumstances.
By expecting that setbacks will occur, that bad things will happen, we can lose our mindset that life is supposed to be perfect, fair, good, and just. Life is all of those, but unfortunately it's up to us to find those aspects that make life so sweet. That is not what everyone wants to hear, I think, but it's the truth.
The easiest way through life is to "follow your guidance." When you feel the action in right, follow it. If you don’t feel comfortable about it, don’t. This may sound simple, but most people don’t follow their guides’ direction. They exercise "free will," which is our God-given gift, but with the exercise of free will comes a whole new set of challenges they might not otherwise have had to experience. This is not a bad thing; just think of it as an assignment for "extra credit."
Life is a process of change to progress and to regress. We need to fully acknowledge and realize that. Otherwise, we won’t feel fit anywhere we go and in anything we do. Biologically speaking, mature adults experience regression, while at the same time progressing career wise and psychologically.
We have been experiencing changes all our lives, thus one tiny step shouldn’t be magnified in a manner that hurts our potential to self-empowerment. Being able to acknowledge this and be willing to appreciate the change as a process of growing up and getting empowered would be the best attitude to help ease the pain of any kind of transition. Life is an odd thing. Being alive is not.
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Making up after an arguement
In the process of planning and writing this entry several thoughts and ideas went through shaia's head. Part of the reason that this entry was written is because about a month ago, Master and shaia had a HUGE disagreement and finally shaia has accepted that sometimes she needs to just learn to let the issue go and move on. This is how she goes about defusing the argument and making up after it. shaia hopes that many of you find this entry helpful, shaia and Master have found it has made a huge improvement to Oour relationship. Master is also not of the belief that He is ALWAYS right, but shaia admits that really, He does seem to be right most of the time, even if she doesn't want to admit it.
-What to do during and after an argument -
Written by: shaia{R}
Relationships are important in order for strong mental health. There have even been studies that show the positive health impacts regarding having a good relationship with others, not matter what the relationship may be. One of the strongest types of relationships is boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, and lovers. In these types of relationships, the other person matters greatly to you.
In any relationship, there are bound to be arguments and disagreements. There have been arguments and disagreements among people dating back decades into history. Back then there was not as much to argue about as there is today, but there still happened to be couples that would break up, just not as often. They would kiss and make up more times than not. However, in present day people seem to get divorced without even trying to reconcile their differences.
There are things you can remember when you have an argument and you want to make up:
1. Time out – Take a time out from the argument for 30 minutes and go off into your own corners and cool down. Everyone knows that emotions are extremely high in an argument. Just remember, when a child is highly emotional the best thing is to put them somewhere to cool off, well the same thing goes for partners. So when emotions are high, one of the two needs to call this time out to keep things from getting out of control.
2. Do you laugh about the small things? – An example is when your wife throws something out of the refrigerator that you planned on eating, you need to ask yourself if wish to keep neutral ground and not cause an argument. You need to be sure you stop and think about what you are going to say before getting upset. This will allow you and your partner a chance to have a happy and drama free home.
3. When is it right to kiss and make up? – This is something that has been discussed for years. There are some who believe that couples must make up before going to bed. There are others who would rather sleep on it before continuing. Both arguments are reasonable. Those who believe the first thought are people who want to wake up fresh and start over again. They will talk as long as it takes to get things straightened out and then fall asleep together.
The other couples that wish to sleep on the feelings over night are of the belief that sitting and talking all hours of the night will not accomplish anything. They know their head will be clearer in the morning. In all actuality, the argument may actually be diminished.
Whichever side you are on really depends on who you are and your personality. You may end up in a relationship where you feel one way and your partner feels another. If this occurs, you will need to work out a compromise.
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